What would happen if your love relations become more dynamic? Meet Danish Sara Skaarup at The JoyRide Experience.
What if you want another kind of love relation than the traditional woman loves man and they marry? What if you want...
And she has the courage to discuss our behavior, unspoken roles and find her own way. And she makes her personal choices from her heart, encouraging others to also find their way.
Sara works in the area of love and intimate relations, since it’s there most people find the meaning of life.
– 10 years ago I was chief of a magazine about hair and makeup. It paid well. But day by day I got further and further away from myself, spending all my time writing about superficial subjects. One day I just gave in my notice and started freelancing and studying sexuality. I felt this subject would make sense to me on a long term base, and I was right.
How did you choose your field, your perspective?
– When my husband and I discovered that the traditional monogamous life style did not work for us, I looked for books to read but found nothing in Danish. After several years of living in different degrees of openess, it made sense to me to write about the dynamics of this way of living and loving – hoping that others might find it helpful. This – and the topic of jealousy – became main topics of mine.
How has working with sexuality changed your life?
– To me sexuality is the base of life and cannot be isolated. Working within this field is working with personal growth and development – and sometimes it is the students teaching the teacher. I have also experienced, that the subjects I deal with are very potent ones, that arises many emotions. I have no answers, that goes for all, and no desire to convince anyone, still my message is for some people quite controversial.
What insights would you like to share with the participants at The JoyRide Experience?
– That everyone is entitled to identify their very own idea about what love and fidelity is – and to make a life according to that.
Sara is a writer, journalist and sexologist. She has written the book "Kærlighedskontrakten – åbenhed og troskab i parforholdet" (Lovecontract - openness and fidelity in a relationship). She has also been involved in the launch of Denmarks first love operation - called Dynamic relationships - where couples get help to develop their relations in new ways. Where they use lovecontracts and where the traditional sexual monopoly sometimes is abandoned. Sara also teaches students at Sexologyschool andPsychology and love at Krogrup Folk High School.
The JoyRide Experience, a five day adventure with workshopleaders from many countries. Hästveda, Sweden, August 9-14.